The "deadbeat dad" in Elyria who owes $97,000 in child support should not be called a "dad' at all...ever. He's no "Dad."
A "dad" or a "father" is someone who takes care of his children, nurtures them, watches them grow up, takes an interest in their lives. We have to come up with a better term for these serial procreators who "donate" what they have and create children with women, then abandon them.
They take no responsibilty for their actions. And when the legal system catches up with them, most judges cannot order them not to create any more children until they take care of the ones they already have.
Case in point.
Lorain County Judge James Walther ordered "deadbeat dad" Asim Taylor, 35, of Elyria, to avoid having more children until he can support the four he has. Taylor owes $97,000 in back child support and pleaded guilty.
The judge's order will be lifted if Taylor pays the overdue support. Defense attorney Douglas Merrill says the ruling is overreaching and violates Taylor's rights. He plans an appeal, based on an Ohio Supreme Court ruling that overturned a similar order that focused on the mechanism for paying up.
So, is that it? Nope, just in Ohio.
And, in Racine, Wisconsin, on Dec. 3, Racine County Circuit Court Judge Tim Boyle sentenced Corey Curtis, 44, a deadbeat dad of nine, who owes almost $100,000 in back child support, saying "it's too bad the court doesn't have the authority to sterilize."
Curtis had "fathered" -- there's that word again -- nine children with six women.
But Boyle did have authority to restrict Curtis' future breeding. The district attorney told Boyle that a Wisconsin Supreme Court ruling found that a judge may, as a condition of a person's probation, order the defendant not to have another child unless he can show he can support that child.
We'll see where this goes.
Now, know that in mid-December, the worst deadbeat dad in the country -- a Long Island man who owes more than $1.2 million in child support -- was arrested at LAX airport after the Philippines threw him out of the country.
Robert Sand, 50 was collared by U.S. marshals after a decade on the run, officials said. The former car auctioneer fled to Florida and then Thailand after divorcing his wife, Lisa Sand, after 10 years of marriage in 1996, officials said.
He left her and his two children in the lurch for $750 weekly child-support payments, according to a federal complaint, and also went and fathered a child in Thailand.
Sand had a lavish lifestyle before his divorce but then began allegedly under-reporting his income to reduce his income to reduce his weekly payments, which amounted to $375 per child per week.
Sand became the No. 1 deadbeat dad in the country after the October, 2012 arrest of Brooklyn physician Raihan Chowdburry, 51, who allegedly owed $1.6 million in child-support payments after leaving his wife and three kids in 2006.
Do any of these guys sound like they are "dads" or "fathers"? So we really need to come up with a new name for them.
And, just to be fair, if the men these women are having "relations" with doesn't use protection, why aren't you protecting yourself?
All actions have consequences and these actions can end up creating a life.
I know several wonderful men who are great fathers and who give their sons and daughters their time, their attention and anything else they need. They are "Dads," "Fathers" and Papas."
They deserve not to have their title besmirched by careless, lowlife characters who have no character.